In 2002 my first bundle of joy landed on earth and the mother was born in me. It has been a roller coaster ride thus far and I am still figuring out the answer to the above question, says Priyadarsini Deepak.
By Priyadarsini Deepak
Today, on Mother’s Day, it is relevant to ask: “How is it to be a mother?” Sixteen years back, the above question rang in my head. Today, I am a mother of two boys at age 16 and 11 years respectively. In 2002 my first bundle of joy landed on earth and the mother was born in me. It has been a roller coaster ride thus far and I am still figuring out the answer to the above question. Like a child having his/her stages of growth or milestones, I too experienced several stages in my motherhood.
Stage one – The over protective mom: My first born’s arrival excited me as any mom who is eager to have her baby. The creative side in me developed so much that I composed my own lullabies. Still, when the realization struck that my infant is completely dependent on me for his existence, the thought scared me so much that I become over protective about him.
Stage two – The warrior mom: My child started to make baby steps into the outside world, and I could not be as protective as I used to be. Hence I turned to be like a warrior, who emerged from nowhere as and when I thought my child needed help. Deep inside I knew that I could not be omnipresent to handle every situation that my child may face. Gradually, I started to learn to let go by trusting in my son’s abilities and by sending prayers.
Being sensitive in nature and a working mother, it was not easy to let go. However, life showed me that, much were my fearful imaginations and that my child was growing stronger each day to handle his life.
Stage three – The silly mom: Now my children are 11 and 16 years. One day while working from home on my laptop, I had some technical trouble shoots to handle. From nowhere I heard a voice, “mom do you think you need help in handling this? “ Initially, I could not accept what I heard as I thought I
knew better as an experienced adult. I never realized that my babies have grown to provide me support at a professional level.
I started to listen and observe them. This made me realize, what they wanted was a happy and peaceful mother. I transformed. Became silly and playful at home. Today I am their baby and they are my teachers. I am more a listener than a dictator.
Being silly, simple and playful with my children has only increased our love and understanding. Spend quality time with them, be real, share your life stories and experiences, listen to them without prejudice, try to understand the generation they live in, consider their thoughts and just be with them.
We only have to live it and they will take what is required.
Let’s embrace the blessed path.
Happy Mother’s Day.
Priyadarsini Deepak is a Kochi-based lawyer and Bharatanatyam dancer. She is a partner with Praxis Law, a law firm in Kochi. A total life explorer, pursuing trekking, meditation, writing and more.