even if she seems to be doing the bulk of them, one assumes it's because she is the more take-charge person. These are un-self-conscious ways in which independent young people are working out a fairer domestic contract.
This is not to say the SDR is some sort of summit as far Hindi movie romance goes. There have always been progressive, thoughtful movies about men and women, and there have been fairytales. The nice thing is that SDR isn't aiming for radical, but for honest. Romance and marriage have different impulses, which is why most rom-coms have to stop at the wedding. There is no narrative engine in a happy marriage. The drama in SDR is precisely about the need for a wedding ó and rejecting it, in the end, is an act of civil disobedience that is truly romantic.